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College Student Success: Tolerance & Acceptance

Part of succeeding as a college student is growing as an adult and becoming mature enough to accept people who are not like you. Tolerance and acceptance means we give people the freedom to be their own unique selves without casting judgment or putting our map upon them.

Keep an open mind and be willing to challenge any stereotype you may have developed by reason of your parental upbringing.

If we are honest with ourselves, we can find levels of conditioning and brainwashing from society and even within our own family (perhaps unknowingly), where we improperly and erroneously began to believe an idea without first testing its validity.

I know when I began to help out my youth Pastor by providing a young African American a ride to church, my grandmother got a bit nervous. Me being the controversial and confrontational type, I humorously challenged my Nana’s racial fears and stereotype by saying: “What? You don’t like black people? Maybe I will marry a black woman.”

My grandmother did not like that, but it was sufficient for the racial undertones and biases to stop. Thereafter it was smooth sailing because I confronted my grandmother’s fear head on.

Often times stereotypes and racial bias is nothing more than a snap judgment derived from hidden fears about a race someone usually knows very little about.

Granted we all have bad experiences with people of all races, but that should not be reason to discard the entire race and ethnicity.

Truly there are brilliant and delightful people of every race on earth from whom we can learn things and happily enjoy life together. My world travels to over 50 countries and 6 continents has certainly proven and taught me this.

Go eat lunch with somebody of another race or cultural ethnic group. Be wise enough to realize that many wonderful contributions have come from people of all races. To deny yourself such meaningful interaction only shortcircuits and disconnects you from your full potential.

Rather than being fearful and getting labeled a hater, be a heartfelt helper to bridge the racial divide on your campus and happily bring people harmoniously together.

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College Student Success Secrets: Mirth for a Rebirth

If you are feeling down about being away from your hometown and missing family & friends, no assuredly you’re not alone. Many college students across your campus feel the exact same way.

Therefore choose and determine to break forth into joy today! Make a conscious decision to alter your attitude and live happily. Make the most of your day, knowing you shall never have it again. Show yourself friendly. Extend a smile and handshake to make a new friend.

Graciously and generously give some mirth, letting joy arise from deep within. As you do your mirth will replenish your self-worth and awaken within you a new birth.

Mirth for a rebirth and revitalization is yours for the taking! Be happy today and forget about hesitating!

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Healthy Relationship Secrets: College Student Success Secrets to be Healthy & Whole

Healthy relationships secrets to help you be healthy and whole. Never fear losing a relationship. Respect yourself and never hold on to a relationship too tight. Be passionate, but don’t allow yourself to be pimped and emotionally manipulated. A healthy relationship starts with a healthy level of self respect, which you must have for yourself. Whenever self respect is diminished or lost, you relationship is no longer healthy.

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As a counselor and minister who hears countless relationships stories and helps people sort through their relationship challenges, it never ceases to amaze me how quickly people compromise their soul and lose a healthy level of self respect within a relationship.

Self respect is the most vital component within a healthy relationship, without which any relationship (be it personal or professional) will rapidly erode. Whenever you allow yourself to be cheapened and your personhood lessened so as to maintain a relationship with somebody you love, you simultaneously lessen your love for yourself. Without a healthy and proper amount of self love, you quickly can become a doormat and begin to tolerate unnecessary abuse within relationships.

Relational abuse and being taken for granted within a relationship subtly occurs when you lower your standards and stop standing up for yourself. When you quietly tolerate poor behavior and allow people to talk down to you, indirectly (often unbeknownst to yourself) you send a message loud and clear saying that such abuse is alright.

Early on in most relationships a healthy level of respect is the foundational cornerstone, without which there would be no progression, trust, and embracing of one another. In the business world, once trust and a likeness of vision is established, many begin to move in the same direction. When subordination and dehumanization begins to subtly occur however, that is the time to quickly and powerfully address such a character dwarfing tendency, lest it occur more frequently and begin to consistently devalue you as a person.

Unfortunately many find themselves in such unhealthy relationships, but acquiesce for a time because they are not secure in their own identity and fear losing what relationship they have (even though deep down they know it is not healthy and quite frankly bad).

It pains me to see such relationships wherein someone (usually the woman, but not always) is being violated and taken advantage of. The action step that immediately needs to occur to turn the tide is to begin again to respect and stand up for yourself.

Refuse to tolerate being talked down to and disrespected.

As you do, you will reframe the perimeters and expectations within your relationship. By doing so, transformation and a relational restructuring may very well occur as hearts and minds are properly brought back in check and self respect is restored.

If such confrontation does not produce a relational correction, know assuredly it may be time to move on. Guard your heart and life before you find yourself being further dominated and brought under endless strife (both internal and relational).

Love and respect yourself even if nobody else does. Remember you will attract what you are.

Therefore teach people how to respect you and let everyone know what you expect. Truly you can have more in relationships if you refuse to settle for anything less.

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Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.

Paul’s 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor’s Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.

After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

Paul’s academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul has a history of overcoming adversity, building bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.

A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul’s humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.

As a former high-school senior class teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker Paul has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, greatly inspiring international students throughout the world.

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.

http:///www.PaulFDavis.com

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College Student Leadership Success Secrets: Choosing, Serving & Leading Student Campus Associations

My alma mater UCF has a huge amount of student clubs, organizations, associations, fraternities, and sororities. Honestly such an overwhelming amount of social, organizational, and leadership opportunities can be down right mind boggling.

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If you’re anything like me, you may need some simple steps to help you consider when to begin on your college campus when considering joining a club, organization, or student association.

Here are some secrets for college student success that will serve you when choosing a club, organization, or association.

1. Choose a group based on your personal interests and inner affinity.

Don’t be enamored by the biggest and the loudest group on campus. The most vocal club, organization, or association may not particularly be the ideal fit for you. If big parties and all night craziness is your thing, than perhaps so. However most of us will probably want a little more than just the social element to a college student club, organization, or association.

I suggest reading each club, organization, and association’s vision and mission statement. UCF has an easy to use, college student friendly website at the student union where much of this information can be accessed and easily browsed through.

If your campus isn’t as internet savvy and friendly, visit your student union and get any printouts with such student club, organization, and association information. Every college and university is different, so inquire as to what is available on your campus.

Then based upon your major, interests, hobbies, and desirable career choose a club, organization, or association that works for you.

2. Be friendly, helpful, and listen attentively.

Avoid walking into any club, organization, or association and projecting yourself as the know-it-all. Such a person is rarely welcomed and often immediately ostracized, if not down right alienated from any meaningful interaction.

Enter as the new kid on the block with a heart to help, serve in any capacity, and listen attentively. This attitude and heart will serve you well and always compel people to be friendly to you, while also propelling you to the top because you are likable.

Pleasantries go a long way when pursuing purposeful living with people. Arrogance and pride conversely will kill any momentary progress you may have made and quickly jade and persuade people to turn against you.

Therefore choose to be the likable guy or girl, who is friendly, helpful, and willing to serve however you can.

3. Learn from others older and more polished than yourself.

As I’ve always said, show me your friends and I will show you your future. Association leads to assimilation, both academically and professionally. This is why doctors have to do internships before they begin their professional practice. Being around a skilled and established professional undoubtedly will rub off on you and cause you to learn and pick up things you otherwise would never learn.

Observation and association lead to skillful and professional assimilation, which books alone can never accomplish. Knowledge does not equal know-how. Therefore who you know, esteem, associate, and interact with is extremely important to ensure you continued personal growth and success.

Therefore serve quality people when they surface in your midst. Honor, respect, and nurture relationships with winners who have the ability to impart truths and skill sets to further your own success. Walk with winners and be enlarged to live your dreams and fulfill your destiny.

Remember when the tide of the sea goes up, all ships in the harbor together rise. Therefore do not be intimidated by others success. Honor, celebrate, and learn from those who have preceded you and proven themselves to be successful.

Success can be taught, caught, and generatively passed along like a baton in the decathlon.

Happily put these 3 powerful college student success secrets to immediate use and your life will soon be moving magnificently to the next level.

I look forward to hearing from you concerning your recent success stories and vision for the future.

Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership & academic success!
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Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.

Paul’s 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor’s Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.

After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

Paul’s academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul has a history of overcoming adversity, building bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.

A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul’s humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.

As a former high-school senior class teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker Paul has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, greatly inspiring international students throughout the world.

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.

http:///www.PaulFDavis.com

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College Student Retention: Success Secrets For College Students, Student Advisors & Deans

College student retention is always on the forefront of the minds of college student advisors, deans, and administrators. Rightfully so, because without college students, colleges and universities cease to exist and the advisors and deans are without a job.

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Therefore retention and academic success is hugely important to ensure the success of a college or university. As a former college student and lifelong learner who frequents college campuses speaking on this topic and occasionally taking some professional development coursework myself, I have observed and come to know a few reasons why colleges fail at retention and why college students become discouraged and leave college.

1. College students are tolerated rather than celebrated.

When the higher-ups in a college take a hierarchal approach to education and treat students like they are beneath them, students feel alienated and become disgruntled. Nobody likes to be mistreated, particularly college students paying high fees to attend a college.

When bureaucrats within college administration, the transcript office, and the student union treat college students disrespectfully rather than serving them gladly, it frustrates college students and tells them the college or university does not care about them.

When colleges treat their students like another number, eventually students opt for a different approach to pursue their career. Students like to be respected too and not made to stand in line excessively to collect documents, books, parking decals and trivial things that to them are meaningless.

2. College students get angry at being nickled and dimed by colleges.

College students quite frankly don’t like paying high tuition fees to attend college, only to later by charged for parking, and than get ticketed for parking in the wrong place when they were running late to class and they was inadequate parking to begin with.

Let’s face the facts. Professors themselves on many college campuses have a hard time finding a place to park. Yet colleges continue to profit by issuing parking tickets. Making students pay $50 to $100 a semester to park is bad enough. Colleges run their parking lots like Disney World, Sea World, and Universal Studios in Orlando, profiting handsomely along the way.

Even worse is when the college intentionally and purposefully pursues issuing parking tickets night and day to collect more revenue for the college. Robbing Peter (or your college students who are already challenged financially) to pay Paul (this being the college) doesn’t endear college students to the academic institution and university. On the contrary, it makes the burning mad and eventually mad enough to consider attending college elsewhere.

3. College students get demoralized when they approach their professor for help and the professor doesn’t give them the time of day, nor an adequate explanation for their problem.

Professors at colleges and universities just working to further their career, collect a paycheck, and publish their latest dissertation or book who don’t give students the time of day leave students feeling demoralized when they are struggling with a class.

Class assignments and college level material comes easier for some students than others. Therefore when a student is struggling and needs some additional time or help, the professor should make himself or herself available to help the student.

Unfortunately many times nowadays college professors just want to communicate via email, that is if they even check their email and reply in time to help the struggling student and answer their questions. Online forums are another method by which professors try to punt and shun students in need of help.

What colleges fail to realize however is students go to college for hands on instruction and interaction with professors, not to be alienated through an online course or partial net based course that keeps professors and college students at arms length.

4. Financial challenges and constraints cause students to withdraw from college.

Colleges aren’t free and students cannot always obtain financial aid. Scholarships are wonderful if a student can get one to go to college, but many students are forced to work a part-time job to survive financially and put themselves through college.

I know I worked a part-time job to put myself through college and rode a bicycle to and from school and work. The sacrifices I made to complete my college education were many.

With the current economic downturn and rising unemployment level, many college students are being laid off from part-time jobs and struggling financially to sustain themselves and pay for their college education.

5. Students withdraw from college when they don’t feel socially connected.

A solid social life wherein a student feels connected to other students on his or her college campus is vital to ensure their success. Emotional support and the comradery of friends who understand them and their struggles empower students to persevere with their college education.

When student advisors, deans, and college administration fail to account for and proactively facilitate the necessary social element that sustains students’ morale, they do themselves and their college a great disservice. Undeniably and undoubtedly, college students want to feel connected and a part of something larger than themselves. Yet it is not a connection to an academic institution per say that they desire as much as it is to their fellow students journeying with them through this season of college life.

Successful colleges therefore don’t just suggest and make social activities and associations available for students, but proactively facilitate and incorporate this into their college’s approach to education early on. By doing so, successful colleges provide every student, including those more shy students with less social initiative the opportunity to be actively engaged and socially interact with other students. This opens the door for meaningful interaction, communication, and the establishing of meaningful friendships among college students on campus. Without such students just fall through the cracks socially, tend to become isolated, and often disappear as they become disillusioned with the whole college experience.

These five reasons are the biggest reasons retention efforts among college students are not succeeding and students are withdrawing from college.

The good news is students and professionals desire to attend college. Most of us value and uphold education. The struggles along the way en route to obtaining a college education and further professional development however when a student steps on a college campus can be irritating and downright frustrating.

Retention coordinators and specialists on college campuses therefore need to urgently and wholeheartedly attend to these matters lest they be the next ones standing in the unemployment line, when college students walk out and say they have had enough.

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Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.

Paul’s 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor’s Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.

After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

Paul’s academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul has a history of overcoming adversity, building bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.

A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul’s humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.

As a former high-school senior class teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker Paul has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, greatly inspiring international students throughout the world.

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.

http:///www.PaulFDavis.com

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College Students First Year Experience and Students in Transition: College Student Success Secrets

Entering college as a first year student can be both intimidating and a bit challenging. When I entered Valencia Community and UCF, I made the mistake of not attending the orientation for new students. Little did I know there would be some extremely helpful information to help me get acquainted with the college and University.

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Looking back in retrospect, I would have definitely attended welcome week and orientation. Thankfully when I attended the FAMU College of Law orientation day, I became acquainted with the professors, deans, and the spirit of the college. It made the transition much more easier and far less intimidating.

Let’s face it making a transition, no matter what life transition it may be, is never easy. Transitioning into college as a new incoming student (whether you are fresh out of high-school, a transfer student from a community college, a graduate student, or seeking further professional career development) can be a bit daunting and overwhelming.

The social element too can be a bit alienating, as not knowing anybody on a college campus can leave you feeling alone. That is precisely why colleges and universities encourage new college students to attend orientation week.

I guess because I lived about an hour drive away from the college and university I attended, I never allowed myself to wholeheartedly integrate, participate, nor embrace the college experience. Truly I regret missing this great opportunity. Yet I did graduate from community college with a 3.8 GPA and UCF Cum Laude. So I certainly succeeded academically, but the social element was never fully developed, nor the professional relational component on campus maximized.

That is why I am writing this for new incoming college students. I want you to not make the same mistake I made early on by blowing off and not going to the orientation. Although some of the information you receive at orientation may not be exceedingly life-changing, the relationships you will make can be very reassuring and sustaining throughout your time at college (thereby life-changing on the long-term).

It has been said it is not always what you know, but who you know. This is quite true. Therefore be open to attending orientation when you begin college. If you are academically focused like me and trying to avoid social distractions, consider attending orientation at least to meet the college President, deans, student advisors, and some professors.

The transition from high-school into college was the best thing I ever did, as it pertains to my professional development and personal growth. I went from boyhood to manhood, where I embraced responsibility, cultivating success, and being proactive pertaining to my purpose and future career.

Amazingly, I went from a 2.8 GPA to becoming an A and B+ student. My only regret is I became so academically focused (blazing through college and University in 3 years, thanks to summer school where I took 15 hours, a full load two summers in a row) that I forgot the social element and cultivating meaningful relationships.

Therefore listen to me and when transitioning into college and university, take time to attend orientation and meet the college faculty, staff, and students on your campus.

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Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.

Paul’s 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor’s Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.

After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

Paul’s academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul builds bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.

A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul’s humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.

As a former high-school senior class teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker Paul has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, greatly inspiring international students throughout the world.

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.

http:///www.PaulFDavis.com

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College Students Success Secrets: Overcoming Adversity, Knock the T Out of Can’t

College student success secrets to overcome adversity & knock the T out of “can’t”. Conquer your fears, transcend your limitations, and be a college student success story by overcoming adversity and knocking the T out of can’t. Only believe and you can achieve success. Overcoming adversity may be tough, but any college student can overcome with these simple success secrets.

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When I entered college and went through growing pains, I realized I was in store for some new challenges for which I had never been forewarned. My parents encouraged my academic success throughout high-school into college, but never bothered to prepare me for the rigors of college life and academics.

There is a big difference in college between knowing you “what” you need to do and knowing “how” to do it. Unfortunately many college professors (perhaps by reason of being in the trenches of academia too long) are not always so helpful in that regard. Plus it is often hard to find someone as a college student who you can relate to who also has some intelligence who can guide and counsel you.

Sadly even college counselors sometimes treat you like another problem in their caseload rather than a genuine person needing someone with a heart to talk to. That being said here are some success secrets to help any college student overcome adversity on their university campus.

1. Stay calm and cool.

When you stay calm and cool, what you need to do will more easily come to you.

Just acknowledge and recognize your present problem, after which set in your heart the intention to tackle it once you know what to do. Upon setting your intent to tackle and deal with this problem, you assuredly will eventually figure it out and take it out!

2. Listen intently, ask questions, and seek out intelligent people.

The more you listen, the more you learn. Those two ears attached to the side of your head are there for a reason. Unfortunately most people prefer to move their mouth a million miles a minute to vocalize their problem, rather than solve it.

Problem solvers however know the secret to solving problems successfully is to quietly process the problem, design a strategy to solving it, and inviting intelligent people around you to help you figure out how to tackle it.

Humbly yourself and ask questions of those around, preferably those with intelligence who can provide good advice and tell you what they would do. As you listen and gain varying perspectives, eventually intuitively it will come to you what it is you should do.

3. Don’t despise the process as you sort through the pieces.

Everybody wants to be a college student success story, but success doesn’t come overnight. You have to make the grades for four years and remain focused through the many attractive distractions throughout college.

As in obtaining a degree, wherein is required the completion of various coursework, overcoming adversity sometimes requires life work and internal home work as you sort through the pieces to your ordeal.

When my mom died prematurely due to a drunk driver hitting her, I had to process some of my unanswered questions and find closure. This was not done easily and took time. Likewise must you most likely give yourself some time to sort through the personal pieces and elements to that which is presently testing and challenging you. Embrace the process regardless of the present pain, knowing assuredly that as you do you will grow through and get up above your problem eventually.

Once you rise above it, you will then be able to objectively look down and back at it to see more clearly. When that time comes, you will simultaneously be able to comfort and lift others currently suffering in a similar dilemma as you. Therefore your present suffering is not in vain, as truly it will empower you to help others just the same.

4. Celebrate your progress.

Celebrate your small successes and steps forward.

When I was hit by a drunk driver (another drunk driving accident years after my mom was killed) and my car was totaled, I was injured physically and great crushed financially. I was already suffering financially before the accident. The drunk driving accident however pushed me over the edge. Suddenly I was now having to use rental cars for months, fight my insurance company for payment, visit medical doctors continually, and sort through stacks of legal documents and medical bills nonstop.

At one point I foolishly said and thought it would have been better if the drunk driver would have killed me, because the pain of the present situation after the accident was crushing and killing me. It is safe to say I was overwhelmed and miserable.

Nevertheless serendipitously a car dealer showed up in my life and offered to personally finance a car for me to buy (since my credit was ruined after the accident and I couldn’t get a decent loan from a car dealer). I was so thankful and appreciative.

Nevertheless I had to make car payments in the range of $2,000 a month, while trying to live off a teaching salary of $2,600 a month and pay a mortgage on my house. Incidentally, those 6 months were very challenging.

Yet when I finally made that last car payment, I rejoiced and sighed a sigh of relief.

Sometimes it is the little things in life that we most take for granted, but suddenly begin to appreciate when they are swiftly removed from us.

I therefore gave thanks to God and rejoiced upon making that final car payment.

What are you thankful for today? As you begin to give thanks something will arise within you, whereby you will be lifted above your adversity and the ability to overcome will mightily move you forward.

Cultivate an attitude of gratitude and apply these marvelous success secrets to work miracles in your life and propel you happily and successfully through college into your dream career!

Wishing you great and continued success!

Invite worldwide speaker and life-changing author Paul F. Davis to speak to your college students about success secrets, breakthrough leadership & overcoming adversity!
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Paul is an exceptional and frequently requested speaker for college student success, leadership, orientations, and to kickoff college events.

Paul’s 17 life-changing books have landed him celebrity guest appearances on Fox News Radio, Investor’s Business Daily, and 3 times on Oprah & Friends.

After a 45 minute interview on Playboy Radio, Afternoon Advice host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an awesome relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

Paul’s academic success & leadership secrets for college students are unparalleled and greatly empowering. Paul has a history of overcoming adversity, building bridges cross-culturally, cultivating diversity awareness, while empowering college students to discover their destiny and live their dreams.

A master in NLP & life coaching; Paul’s humorous, fun, playful and transformative messages graciously challenge college students to ask themselves hard questions and be their personal best.

As a former high-school senior class teacher, Paul understands the challenges facing incoming college students. Moreover Paul personally knows what transfer students go through as he himself attended a community college where he graduated with a 3.8 GPA before entering UCF, where he graduated Cum Laude. As a worldwide professional speaker Paul has touched more than 50 countries and 6 continents, greatly inspiring international students throughout the world.

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been deep into rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

Paul empowers people to love passionately, work together globally, and live their dreams fearlessly.

http:///www.PaulFDavis.com

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