As somebody who has traveled to over 50 countries throughout the world and dated countless women, it is worth noting that all women are not classy.
Over the years experience has taught me that looks are not everything, although most women will spend a good portion of their life attending to and complaining about their appearance. The classy woman however transcends her outward appearance and cultivates the woman within.
The best way to test a woman’s character is to watch how she handles money and people. The frivolous woman will spend carelessly and not consider where the money is coming from, neither how hard it was to earn. The lofty and egotistically self-absorbed woman will treat people of low estate poorly, considering them merely servants to attend to her every beck and call. Such behavior smacks of pride and arrogance, which a woman who merely lives for herself manifests often.
In regard to finances of all the women I have dated, one in particular proved exceptional in her ability to surprise me in her financial dealings. She was visiting friends in New York, during which we spent a few days skiing at Lake Placid. I made and cared for all of the arrangements, but to my surprise before she said her goodbyes she gave me an envelope full of hundred dollar bills to cover her share of the trip.
Such is a genuine woman of class and nobility. Sadly such a mentality is long gone and hard to find in North American and Western women who feel for some strange reason because of their looks and charm they are entitled to take advantage of men.
The few women who act otherwise will always stand head and shoulders above the rest regardless of their looks. My wife has endured many hardships our first two years of marriage, as I by no means am a money man. Nevertheless we have lived well and traveled to many wonderful parts of the world – Australia, Fiji, Holland, France, Monaco, Puerto Rico, Aruba, St. Thomas, Curacao, and St. Martin.
Yet in our day to day lives both of us have struggled as entrepreneurial business owners. That being said financial struggles necessitate that we share a car. I’m always thankful and appreciative whenever my wife takes the initiative to put gas in it. Such is unthinkable for many women who merely use hubby’s credit card. Thank God I’m not saddled to such a woman.
My beloved wife is thrifty and sells items around the house we don’t use on Craigslist to help us out financially. She clips and saves coupons to save money when we grocery shop. Plus she’s paying her own way back to Canada to be in her friend’s wedding. Our first year of marriage she willingly shared a mobile phone with me to save money.
Guys you want to see your woman under pressure before you marry her. While dating I often took women overseas, out of their comfort zone, to see how they would react. Women and men put on a false face when they are dating to show their very best. Only over time as people let down their guard, does their true self appear and show itself.
Listen to the words of choice, the way people express themself, and their feelings. Are they positive or negative? Encouraging or destroying? Uplifting or draining? Do they bad mouth and belittle people? All of these are red flags to warn you of who you are dealing with.
Little things are everything. The devil is hidden in the details. If you date a woman who is all about herself and never offers to pay her way, watch out. Sometimes when my wife wants to go out, she pays for us.
Remember before marriage men want a cute face and nice figure. After marriage, men want a responsible woman who will help pay the bills.
Life is not all about her hair, dress, and shoes. She may think otherwise and if you allow it, you my friend are not wise and in store for a long arduous ride.
Do yourself a favor men. If she’s high maintenance while you are dating her, move on while you can before you take her hand in marriage and have to endure a life of misery.
Romance without finance is foolishness and to think you can change someone is fatally presumptuous.
Paul F Davis – Love Coach and author of Are You Ready For True Love? a book assessing relational compatibility and responsibility
Paul F. Davis is a world-changing leadership & diversity speaker who has touched over 50 countries & 6 continents building bridges cross-culturally and empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams!
Paul is the author of 14 books. Paul has appeared on numerous internationally broadcast radio shows from Oprah & Friends to Fox News Radio to talk about conflict resolution, peacemaking, foreign policy, and diplomacy. Playboy Radio host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an “awesome” relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.
Academically outstanding Davis was trained in transformative mediation & conflict resolution (Hofstra Law School); strategic negotiations (Harvard Business School & U. of Washington); advanced interrogation (Reid & Associates founders of the polygraph); and NLP & Life Coaching (NLP & Coaching Institute of California).
Paul humorously and elegantly transforms individuals and organizations.
Paul’s organization Dream-Maker Inc. builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.
Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been so deep into the bush of rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.
Paul empowers people to love passionately and live fearlessly.