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Classy Woman – Considerations Before Marriage

As somebody who has traveled to over 50 countries throughout the world and dated countless women, it is worth noting that all women are not classy.

Over the years experience has taught me that looks are not everything, although most women will spend a good portion of their life attending to and complaining about their appearance. The classy woman however transcends her outward appearance and cultivates the woman within.

The best way to test a woman’s character is to watch how she handles money and people. The frivolous woman will spend carelessly and not consider where the money is coming from, neither how hard it was to earn. The lofty and egotistically self-absorbed woman will treat people of low estate poorly, considering them merely servants to attend to her every beck and call. Such behavior smacks of pride and arrogance, which a woman who merely lives for herself manifests often.

In regard to finances of all the women I have dated, one in particular proved exceptional in her ability to surprise me in her financial dealings. She was visiting friends in New York, during which we spent a few days skiing at Lake Placid. I made and cared for all of the arrangements, but to my surprise before she said her goodbyes she gave me an envelope full of hundred dollar bills to cover her share of the trip.

Such is a genuine woman of class and nobility. Sadly such a mentality is long gone and hard to find in North American and Western women who feel for some strange reason because of their looks and charm they are entitled to take advantage of men.  

The few women who act otherwise will always stand head and shoulders above the rest regardless of their looks. My wife has endured many hardships our first two years of marriage, as I by no means am a money man. Nevertheless we have lived well and traveled to many wonderful parts of the world – Australia, Fiji, Holland, France, Monaco, Puerto Rico, Aruba, St. Thomas, Curacao, and St. Martin.

Yet in our day to day lives both of us have struggled as entrepreneurial business owners. That being said financial struggles necessitate that we share a car. I’m always thankful and appreciative whenever my wife takes the initiative to put gas in it. Such is unthinkable for many women who merely use hubby’s credit card. Thank God I’m not saddled to such a woman.

My beloved wife is thrifty and sells items around the house we don’t use on Craigslist to help us out financially. She clips and saves coupons to save money when we grocery shop. Plus she’s paying her own way back to Canada to be in her friend’s wedding. Our first year of marriage she willingly shared a mobile phone with me to save money.

Guys you want to see your woman under pressure before you marry her. While dating I often took women overseas, out of their comfort zone, to see how they would react. Women and men put on a false face when they are dating to show their very best. Only over time as people let down their guard, does their true self appear and show itself.

Listen to the words of choice, the way people express themself, and their feelings. Are they positive or negative? Encouraging or destroying? Uplifting or draining? Do they bad mouth and belittle people? All of these are red flags to warn you of who you are dealing with.

Little things are everything. The devil is hidden in the details. If you date a woman who is all about herself and never offers to pay her way, watch out. Sometimes when my wife wants to go out, she pays for us.

Remember before marriage men want a cute face and nice figure. After marriage, men want a responsible woman who will help pay the bills.

Life is not all about her hair, dress, and shoes. She may think otherwise and if you allow it, you my friend are not wise and in store for a long arduous ride.  

Do yourself a favor men. If she’s high maintenance while you are dating her, move on while you can before you take her hand in marriage and have to endure a life of misery.

Romance without finance is foolishness and to think you can change someone is fatally presumptuous.

Paul F Davis – Love Coach and author of Are You Ready For True Love? a book assessing relational compatibility and responsibility

Paul F. Davis is a world-changing leadership & diversity speaker who has touched over 50 countries & 6 continents building bridges cross-culturally and empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams!

 

Paul is the author of 14 books. Paul has appeared on numerous internationally broadcast radio shows from Oprah & Friends to Fox News Radio to talk about conflict resolution, peacemaking, foreign policy, and diplomacy. Playboy Radio host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an “awesome” relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

 

Academically outstanding Davis was trained in transformative mediation & conflict resolution (Hofstra Law School); strategic negotiations (Harvard Business School & U. of Washington); advanced interrogation (Reid & Associates founders of the polygraph); and NLP & Life Coaching (NLP & Coaching Institute of California).

 

Paul humorously and elegantly transforms individuals and organizations.

 

Paul’s organization Dream-Maker Inc. builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.

 

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been so deep into the bush of rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

 

Paul empowers people to love passionately and live fearlessly.

 

http://www.PaulFDavis.com

 

RevivingNations@yahoo.com

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Political Consultant to Build Faith Based Constituencies – Wield Influence Over Politics & Business

Launch a successful, high impact communication campaign to neurolinguistically reprogram the populace and tip the balance of the scales in your favor.

http://www.PaulFDavis.com
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
Paul F. Davis is a savvy political consultant creating and engineering breakthrough communication campaigns to transform business enterprise, alter an election, ignite a movement, and improve your quality of life!
 
Considering strategic advocacy politically and throughout the global marketplace often contains a moral and religious component to effectively persuade the populace, worldwide minister and political consultant Paul F. Davis is a secret weapon to achieve your communications objective.
Paul F Davis possesses cross-cultural understanding, relational skills, outstanding prophetic insight, and a keen intuition as a futurist.
Paul can captivate any audience and market niche, while defying conventional wisdom to affect social-change across communities and capture constituencies.

Contact Paul F. Davis to formulate a strong communications campaing to appeal to and persuade your constituencies to embrace your desirable outcome.

http://www.PaulFDavis.com
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
 
Politically, a thoughtful moderate with an open mind about every angle to an issue, Paul is not emotionally attached to parties and platforms. This enables Paul to be inwardly congruent and outwardly objective when developing a strong communications campaign for his clients.

Paul F Davis has over 15 years experience as a worldwide professional speaker in over 50 countries and is the author of 14 books. Touching, teaching, and transforming lives is Paul’s passion.

Paul has appeared on numerous internationally broadcast radio shows from Oprah & Friends to Fox News Radio to talk about conflict resolution, peacemaking, foreign policy, and diplomacy.
 
Playboy Radio host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an “awesome” relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.
 
Academically outstanding Davis was trained in transformative mediation & conflict resolution (Hofstra Law School); strategic negotiations (Harvard Business School); advanced interrogation (Reid & Associates founders of the polygraph); and NLP & Life Coaching (NLP & Coaching Institute of California).
 
Paul humorously and elegantly transforms individuals and organizations.
 
http://www.PaulFDavis.com
RevivingNations@yahoo.com
 
 

 

 

  

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Zoolon, Zulon, or Xulon Press – Spell it However You Want, Pay More, and Get Less

Publishing Confessions from a Xulon Press Author Who Encountered Conservative Hypocrisy

The ancient Greek word Xulon (zoo’ lon) is talking about revelation and I’ve got some profound revelations about Salem Communications publisher Xulon Press for you. Hear ye, hear ye all you authors because this is for you!

Writing a book is one thing, getting it published and enduring the many money-making schemes of publishers is another. I found publishing to be a very expensive and daunting task.

Xulon Press is a “Christian” publisher that published 4 books of my books. I had some major discrepancies in regard to promises unfulfilled in regard to their press releases. I published four books with Xulon Press within a year and encountered some problems, many related to their purported publicity packages – which essentially make or break a book’s success.

I recently received an email blast advert from Xulon Press and Townhall Press (“where your opinion counts”) promoting political candidate Fred Thompson’s new book Government at the Brink.

Xulon Press e-blasts are rare and apparently only given to very influential and powerful people who can sell more books and increase profit margins. I don’t recall getting any other promos for books besides Thompson’s, which of course reveals what a conservative owned publisher is capable of when it really wants to properly promote its authors books.

When I spoke to Xulon’s director of acquisitions and operations about receiving the same kind of E-blast for the 4 books I published and purchased publicity for with Xulon, I was told Fred Thompson’s book was a “special case”. In other words, though I published 4 books with Xulon, I wasn’t important and politics and profits are prioritized over fair treatment of all authors. Thompson, a political candidate with more visibility, is more financially promising and conservatively leaning. Hence Fred, unlike other Xulon authors, got the extra publicity push.

Founded by Christian author and publisher Tom Freiling, Xulon is now a part of Salem Communications Corporation. Salem claims to be the country’s leading Christian communications company with interests in radio, Internet, and magazine publishing. This does not mean you as an author with Xulon or Town Hall can rest, because my experience is Xulon’s connections and publicity never gives you as an author its best. If you’re not a big name or a conservative cash cow like Thompson, expect far less.

Tom Freiling founded Xulon Press and Town Hall Press with a group of Conservative entrepreneurs (perhaps that explains why the little author doesn’t get a fair chance).

Freiling’s political ideology is rather obvious in the books he has written: George W. Bush on God and Country, and Reagan’s God and Country. Incidentally last time I checked God never said he was a Republican or an American. Perhaps that explains the hypocrisy of American democracy and our present failed foreign policy.

Mr. Freiling claims to have published dozens of best-selling Conservative books, selling more than 2 million copies worldwide, and proudly mentions his appearances on CNN, C-Span, and many other television and radio programs. Being connected to Salem Communications has its benefits.

Why than can’t Mr. Freiling and Xulon Press produce the same publicity for me its author of 4 books? Possible reasons could be:

– I’m not conservative enough. Certainly my new book United States of Arrogance attests to that, though I am a registered Republican.

– It’s more fun to adequately publicize your own books when you run a publishing company than the authors paying for publicity.

– Getting paid for books published and publicity promised is more fun than actually producing the finished product.

– Maybe Xulon Press prefers selling the illusion to its authors of getting on Oprah and Larry King even though they have no intention of providing national publicity with PR Web the company it uses to do press releases.

Xulon purchased for my books the cheapest of the four tiers offered for press releases from PR Web (which does not offer nationwide exposure), but made me to believe I was getting a shot at national publicity to be discovered. It takes years to write a book. The 4 books I wrote and published with Xulon (those they lied about adequately publicizing) certainly left me feeling quite betrayed by the Christian and conservative publisher. I do believe punitive damages for the years of my life lost are in order. Before proceeding with that I think it is proper however to give Xulon a taste of what good publicity can accomplish so they never lie to future aspiring authors again. Unfortunately I continue to get emails from disgruntled Xulon authors who agree with me and have issue with various items pertinent to the publishing of their books.

Mr. Freiling claims Writer’s Digest magazine featured him as one of the world’s leading experts on self-publishing. What’s the problem than in generating adequate publicity for his authors?

Interestingly though Xulon Press has an Author Audio Blog page, I have never been asked to be interviewed by Mr. Freiling for any of my 4 books. Xulon Press and Town Hall Press like to sell the illusion of “strength in numbers” belonging to conservative and Christian groups. I have found however none of this really matters once you publish with Xulon because after they collect the cash from you, my experience has been the author is basically forgetten about and provided very poor publicity.

Perhaps the Christian Booksellers Association (CBA) and the Evangelical Christian Publishers Association (ECPA) should evaluate the publicity packages Xulon Press sells and reconsider how reputable the company really is or is not.

Paul F. Davis – worldwide minister who has touched 50 countries and author of 14 books

Xulon Press published 4 books Davis wrote: “Supernatural Fire”; “Poems That Propel The Planet”; “Are You Ready For True Love?”; and “Adultery 101”

The fiery minister says of Xulon, “I guess some people don’t see the light until they first feel the heat. Indeed they will feel the fire of the Holy Spirit in me as I have many bones to pick with Tom Freiling and Xulon Press. I shall be heard and will not be silent!”

http://www.PaulFDavis.com
RevivingNations@yahoo.com

Interestingly, I found two complaints about Xulon Press here below:

http://www.topix.com/com/salm/2007/11/zoolon-zulon-or-xulon-press-spell-it-however-you-want-pay-up-and-get-less

Apr 18, 2008

I have recently used Xulon and I’m overall disappointed. I found the language of services offered for the bestseller’s package was very misleading (bordering on dishonest). For instance, they presented the following when I purchased the more expensive package (a little over $1900 several months back), “We will promote your book at a host of other conferences and conventions, including the annual Book Expo America with Catalogs! You will have the opportunity to spotlight your book at each conference.” (exact quote). In the column where additional fees are stated, NONE are listed — there was only a checkmark indicating that this service is included. A reasonable person would buy this package believing their book would be represented at the convention… however, UNLESS you are willing to pay an ADDITIONAL $149, this is not true. Your book will only be represented in a catalog (and who knows where that will be, under the table??). In the end, it didn’t matter, because my concerns were not addressed in a timely enough manner to take advantage of the program — the rep curtly emailed me stating that all the spots “were taken.”

Other issues I encountered included: 1) not having my book posted on their online store until I called to complain about it not being there (over 1 mth after it was completed) 2) press release accompanied by an excel dump (with over 1,000 listings — many out of date, most just simply websites, but no email addresses) requiring that you notify organizations yourself. 3) Spacing format throughout my book was not consistant. 4) High author prices for book purchases…#100 copies of a 200 page book cost me approx 75% more than another very reputable POD.

They did however deliver a good cover and had the book put on several online bookstores — but stated to me that they only guarantee 4 websites: Amazon.com , Borders.com , Amazon.co.uk ( United Kingdom ), and Btol.com . I’m not certain how they will handle it if Amazon does disable the “BUY” button for POD’s in the future.

Tina – Houston, TX


Thursday Apr 24

My experience was nearly identical to Tina’s in many respects, additionally, it’s been nine months and the book still hasn’t been listed at either Spring Harbor or Ingram’s for retailers to have access. Has anyone considered a class action against Xulon? Their’s is not a Christian way to do business.

Diane – Sitka, AK

Paul F. Davis is a world-changing leadership & diversity speaker who has touched over 50 countries & 6 continents building bridges cross-culturally and empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams!

Paul is the author of 14 books. Paul has appeared on numerous internationally broadcast radio shows from Oprah & Friends to Fox News Radio to talk about conflict resolution, peacemaking, foreign policy, and diplomacy. Playboy Radio host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an “awesome” relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

Academically outstanding Davis was trained in transformative mediation & conflict resolution (Hofstra Law School); strategic negotiations (Harvard Business School & U. of Washington); advanced interrogation (Reid & Associates founders of the polygraph); and NLP & Life Coaching (NLP & Coaching Institute of California).

Paul humorously and elegantly transforms individuals and organizations.

Paul’s organization Dream-Maker Inc. builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been so deep into the bush of rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

Paul empowers people to love passionately and live fearlessly.

http://www.PaulFDavis.com

RevivingNations@yahoo.com

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Foursquare Church President Jack Hayford on Lakeland, Florida Revival

Concerning “The Lakeland Revival”

The following was received by the Foursquare president, Pastor Jack Hayford, as a response to the many inquiries that have been received regarding the “Lakeland Revival.” This response is being sent with the confirmation of the board of directors of The Foursquare Church, including the executive team.

It is understandable that the reports of what may be a breakthrough of divine grace are raising questions regarding the veracity of the reports. Some ask what official stance the Foursquare movement will take toward this phenomenon.First, by any standard of biblical wisdom, it is far too early to assert anything on any terms. Understandably, the reports of miracle blessing would cause rejoicing in anyone who believes that God does, indeed, work miracles in our time. But equally understandable are the questions raised by experienced pastoral leaders who have dealt with “revival” situations that have proven deceptive and that have ultimately deterred sincere souls from an understanding of God’s Word and relationship with His Son.

Second, it has not been the practice of The Foursquare Church to draw conclusions hastily in such situations. Our own history as a movement is marked by miracle visitations, both in the United States and in many nations around the world where our ministry extends. We have seen pure, wise, and trustworthy leaders scorned by cynics—at times, even scorned by church leaders who oppose miracles in our time on any terms. That is one reason our general response is to be “slow to speak,” as the Bible instructs (James 1:19). It is for that same reason that we tend to position ourselves as Gamaliel did (Acts 5:34-41)—the rabbi whose influence is reported by the Apostle Paul as having shaped his own thinking in significant regards (Acts 22:3).

As president of our fellowship, and in conjunction with the elders serving on our board and the executives serving in our offices, I recommend that we all give ourselves to prayer for God’s grace upon us as a fellowship of churches. We want to be available to His Spirit, instructed by His Word, open to His will, and humbly slow to pass judgment on things that are outside our purview. We are not called to answer for any other ministry or its report; our responsibility is to seek to serve our flock, teach our people God’s Word and wisdom, and keep ourselves open to to the precious workings of His Spirit.

For the time being, our desire is to live in hope, believe for God’s best in our day, and counsel our leaders and our people to be filled with the Spirit of God. We ask the Spirit to give us humility in discernment and to guard our souls from being either gullible, doubt-prone, or resistant to whatever God may seek to do that proves Christ-exalting, Word-verifying, and enduring beyond sensation or mere excitement. With time, whatever is taking place in Lakeland and through activities issuing from its happenings will either verify or discredit the source of the manifestations.

We are in an hour of history, both nationally and internationally, that calls us to prayer and fasting. Let us give ourselves to seeking God, and let us give place to His visitation in ways that please His heart, seek His glory, and honor His Son, our Savior, Healer, Baptizer with the Holy Spirit, and Soon Coming King.

http://www.PaulFDavis.com – licensed Foursquare minister and author of God vs. Religion

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If you liked what you read, check out Paul’s new book “A New Earth – Connect with Your Creator & Experience Endless Awakenings”

Paul’s new book at http://paulfdavis.com/booksvideos.htm

Paul Davis is a worldwide minister who moves in the miraculous to touch and transform humanity.

Paul has a unique ability to hear the voice of God, naturally bring forth the supernatural in a playful and heartfelt fashion, unlock and simply explain divine mysteries, impart life changing revelation, and usher in powerful manifestation bringing heaven to earth.

Paul is the author of several books including Waves of God; Supernatural Fire; God vs. Religion; United States of Arrogance; Poems that Propel the Planet; Breakthrough for a Broken Heart; Adultery 101; Are You Ready for True Love; Stop Lusting & Start Living; and many more!

Paul’s compassion for people & passion to travel has taken him to over 50 countries of the world where he has had a tremendous impact. Paul’s Dream-Maker Ministries builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.

http://www.PaulFDavis.com

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