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Bullied to Death: Sexual & Cyber Bullying on Oprah – How Kids Can Fight Back

I recently saw a segment on cyber bullying on Oprah discussing how three young boys were devastated and brought to depression as a result of bullying occurring at school.

Sexual slurs and cyber bullying was involved in one of the three cases, where a guy and young lady posed as if there was a romantic interest in the young man who was being teased and accused of being gay. The young boy was certainly not gay.

Although he wasn’t the greatest student or athlete, he wasn’t gay. But these slurs and the cyber bullying further crushed him emotionally to the point he hated school and never wanted to go back.

Eventually unable to cope and take it, sadly the young boy committed suicide. It’s unfortunate he did not confide in and speak to his loving parents, but I guess there was embarrassment in even the accusation of being gay itself.

Schools often intervene very little in sexual bullying. Cyber bullying is even less regulated as it occurs online. The young lady posed to like the boy, but later met him face to face calling him a “loser” and expressed her disinterest in him. Very cruel and hurtful indeed.

Here are some secrets for kids to use to be victorious over sexual & cyber bullying.

1. Be secure in yourself no matter what anybody else says.

2. Speak up for yourself and don’t silence your voice.

3. Tell the principal and every administrator in your school along with teachers until you find a sympathetic soul who will listen and take immediate action.

4. Get some sarcastic one liners to say back to the bully at the appropriate time when other kids are around to embarrass him or her as they have you.

5. Phone the bully’s house around 8:30pm or later to speak to his / her parents and tell them of the abuse occurring against you. Forewarn the parents that unless they take immediate action, you will be going to the principal, police and hiring an attorney. (The last one usually comes with economic restitution and punitive damages the parents of the bully would have to pay financially for not intervening and dealing with their child.)

6. Write the facts and truth about the bully online yourself, which is a great way to be heard and shame the bully.

7. Take martial arts classes and prepare to defend yourself if a physical altercation occurs.

Be strong, be wise, and never despise yourself. The next time the bully picks on you, stand up to him / her and be victorious!

www.PaulFDavis.com – worldwide speaker, life-changing author, and life coach for parents & kids

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Sexual Bullying, Boy Suicide & Oprah’s National Conversation

Dead tired after a long day of teaching high school 11th and 12th grade ESL to international students (mostly Latino and Haitian) and a gruelling workout at the gym, I found myself watching Oprah accidentally after enjoying the Travel Channel with Samantha Brown.

To my utter shock I was speechless when I saw the episode covering sexual bullying and the suicide of two young boys in middle school following being continually called gay by cruel kids.

The era in which we live being so sexually oriented via the media, music, and movies has had a harmful effect on our nation’s youth. What just a decade or two ago was unheard of is no commonplace in schools. As an ESL teacher working my first year here in Florida’s public schools, I have quickly discovered some cultural sexual slurs that Latino and Haitian young men typically use on one another.

Latino young men often playfully call one another “monicon” and Haitian young men “massisi” (both which mean gay or faggot). Thankfully most young men don’t take this sort of thing seriously. However when middle school students and boy in particular are in their formative years and entering puberty, their masculinity is very fragile and developing.

Therefore I can understand the deep hurt and pain caused by sexual bullying and sexual slurs at school, which cause cruel embarrassement publicly to these boys.

Undoubtedly after seeing Oprah’s show tonight, I will be having a conversation with my classes tomorrow. Certainly young women are not exempt as I have heard of fights among ladies breaking out in high schools and sexual slurs and bullying there as well.

With the “No Child Left Behind” national initiative the focus has become so academic focused many guidance counselors have not been given ample time to address such issues, but they need to be addressed thoroughly and immediately in all of our schools.

Certainly this issue must be addressed fully and I intend to write a book about it. Incidentally, I just released my new book today “Empowering & Liberating Women”.

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Oprah Given 3 Years to Live, Will Oprah Rest & Skype in to Her Own Show?

Wow! Oprah given 3 years to live according to the National Enquirer. Now there’s a legitimate and valid source for information. Hmm, I don’t know how believable that is.

Neverthless a world without Oprah would be a great loss. Oprah has mothered America, nurturing our souls, educating us, and entertaining us. Oprah has been a bright and guiding light for many. Of course Oprah’s spirituality may not perfectly agree or align with everybody, but let’s give credit where credit is due – at least she has enough guts to share her beliefs.

Oprah endorsed President Obama, another wise choice and bold move. Frankly, I like Oprah Winfrey and think she’s a wonderful person. Is she driven and a bit egotistical at times (as we all can be)? Absolutely. Nevertheless there is a genuine sincerity and authenticity about Oprah we all like.

I pray Dr. Oz and her dream team of fitness trainers and life coaches can gently persuade Oprah to find a perfect life balance to sustain her health. Oprah is a bright light who we’d like to keep around for a while.

Even if Oprah had to skype in to her own show, we’d all still watch. Pray for Oprah and tell her you love and appreciate her for all she’s done for our country and the world.

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MPI World Changing Speaker – Meeting Planners International Speaker Building Dreams, Breaking Limitations, and Reviving Nations

Paul F. Davis captivating audiences across the globe with rich content, inspirational keynotes and empowering conferences.

 

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In keeping with Meeting Professionals International (MPI) vision to “build a rich global meeting industry community”, Paul F. Davis is a worldwide professional speaker and MPI member doing just that!

Paul has touched over 50 countries, more than 50 islands, and 6 continents empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams! Paul is also the author of 14 books teaching and transforming humanity.

As an international speaker Paul builds bridges cross-culturally and empowers people throughout the earth to live their dreams!

 

Paul is the author of 14 books. Paul has appeared on numerous internationally broadcast radio shows from Oprah & Friends to Fox News Radio to talk about conflict resolution, peacemaking, foreign policy, and diplomacy. Playboy Radio host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an “awesome” relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

 

Academically outstanding Davis was trained in transformative mediation & conflict resolution (Hofstra Law School); strategic negotiations (Harvard Business School & U. of Washington); advanced interrogation (Reid & Associates founders of the polygraph); and NLP & Life Coaching (NLP & Coaching Institute of California).

 

Paul humorously and elegantly transforms individuals and organizations.

 

Paul’s organization Dream-Maker Inc. builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.

 

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been so deep into the bush of rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

 

Paul empowers people to love passionately and live fearlessly.

 

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TV Guide and NY Times say Oprah Winfrey’s Empire is Crumbling

TV Guide’s Chloe Tse article dated 05-27-2008 reports tremors in Oprah’s media empire.

According to TV Guide Winfrey’s new-age spiritualism and political persuasion is jeopardizing her marketability in the media, thereby diminishing her status.

 

Perhaps Winfrey’s longtime reign over the media is coming to an abrupt end. For so long revered as nearly a saint because of her uplifting programming, Oprah is now beginning to receive criticism for her views. It has often been said that one should not talk about their religion and politics. Oprah is defying the odds and daring to do both.

 

I salute her for her authenticity and boldness to express her individuality. Yet doing so is simultaneously hurting her marketability. Nevertheless on the flip side of that argument, we do well to remember that controversy does sell. Who knows the queen of TV could remake herself into an activist for worthy causes and a voice against social injustice. Nobody can dispute Oprah has done and is doing a lot of good in the world. And with such influence why shouldn’t she let her voice be heard?

 

The New York Times says Oprah’s choices are gaining skepticism and audiences are tuning out. According to Nielson Media Research, for the third straight year in a row, Oprah is experiencing a decline in audience viewers.

 

Research shows Oprah’s program has dropped 7% of its viewers this year alone. Oprah’s other projects also seem to be suffering. For example her reality show Oprah’s Big Give debuted this winter with a huge audience and beat every program on television except for American Idol, but also experienced the loss of almost a third of its audience.

 

Winfrey’s readership of O her magazine, which you would think to have increased with the nonstop promotion of Tolle’s book, suffered a beating and loss of 10% over the last 3 years according to the Audit Bureau of Circulations.

 

Even Oprah’s favorite and highly promoted books in her book club are suffering harsh criticism. Apparently Oprah either didn’t adequately study the demographics of her viewers, or disregarded her viewers beliefs altogether. Women in the deep south who heavily watch Oprah’s program are typically Christian and many supporters of Senator Hillary Clinton.  Hence Oprah has cut her own throat by alienating Christendom with her new age books and shows, while simultaneously disenchanting white women when she endorsed Barak Obama for President.

 

As a Christian who read “A New Earth” and found it a in meaningful book, I understand both how Oprah feels and religious folks who don’t play around with their faith. Certainly not all Christians can eat the fish and spit out the bones when reading spiritual truths originating from another ideological orbit. Politically Americans aren’t very tolerant or understanding either, as evidenced by the great political divide in our country between Republicans and Democrats.

 

I commend Oprah for being true to what she believes in and bold enough to share what she thinks will empower people to live better lives. Her intentions and motives are certainly pure. If Oprah were solely money motivated, she would not continue to promote her spiritual and political views. Yet being already established financially, Oprah is embarking upon larger more meaningful missions to change the world. O Ambassadors is just one new endeavor Oprah is partnering with Free the Children to liberate and educate kids worldwide.

 

Hopefully Oprah who says she is a Christian will not find problems with parents concerned about their children getting sold new-age ideas. I think Oprah is doing a great work and deserves our support. Yet at the same time we who have beliefs of our own should not be any less vocal than Oprah.

 

Anything worth having in life requires a sacrifice. For Oprah it is a drop in viewer ratings, book sales, and magazine distribution. Nevertheless the rewards of the sacrifice should be sufficient to warrant the losses. Often we must first be willing to lose in order to win.

 

It cannot be disputed that ultimately we attract what we are. We cannot please everyone and succeed. We are at our best when we are true to ourselves and transparent about it. That Oprah is and that is why we love her.

 

Beyond touching hearts and putting tears in our eyes, Oprah also makes people think. Now raising eyebrows and making us scratch our heads, Oprah is finding herself as she further evolves. She recently said on her program that she admits to not having enough time to truly enjoy herself.  Perhaps as Oprah becomes more present and lets go of the ambition of sustaining her empire, critics will be silenced and her true spirit will emerge in purity untainted from the labels many have tried to presumptuously give her.

 

Dividing audiences is not always a bad thing as even the Word of God itself divides, while exposing our hearts (see Hebrews 4:12). Although Oprah’s television audience is predominately middle-aged white women who support Senator Hillary Clinton, most Americans are awaking to the reality that we need some color in the White House to truly get real and heal the homeland.

 

Angry criticism of new-age spiritualism and political disputes though a common message thread on the message boards from her website, Oprah will continue to transcend the accusations and come out on top as she honors the God of truth.  Love rejoices in the truth and we should do no less.

 

Next up for Oprah is OWN: The Oprah Winfrey Network. featuring programming that will reflect Winfrey’s vision of what she considers empowering programming.   

 

You can’t go wrong when you touch, teach, and transform your audience.

 

It’s not about being the queen of the media as much as it is about living a meaningful life of purpose to impact humanity.

 

Paul F Davis – international speaker and author

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RevivingNations@yahoo.com

 

 

Paul F. Davis is a world-changing leadership & diversity speaker who has touched over 50 countries & 6 continents building bridges cross-culturally and empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams!

 

Paul is the author of 14 books. Paul has appeared on numerous internationally broadcast radio shows from Oprah & Friends to Fox News Radio to talk about conflict resolution, peacemaking, foreign policy, and diplomacy. Playboy Radio host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an “awesome” relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

 

Academically outstanding Davis was trained in transformative mediation & conflict resolution (Hofstra Law School); strategic negotiations (Harvard Business School & U. of Washington); advanced interrogation (Reid & Associates founders of the polygraph); and NLP & Life Coaching (NLP & Coaching Institute of California).

 

Paul humorously and elegantly transforms individuals and organizations.

 

Paul’s organization Dream-Maker Inc. builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.

 

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been so deep into the bush of rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

 

Paul empowers people to love passionately and live fearlessly.

 

http://www.PaulFDavis.com

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O Ambassadors – Free The Children

I just watched Monday’s inspiring episode of Oprah partnering with Free The Children in Kenya forming O Ambassadors to build schools across the impoverished parts of the world. What’s special about this is the ambassadors are kids still in school here in America themselves desirious of changing their world.

As someone who has been to Africa 5 times, working in war-torn east Africa, I know firsthand the needs there. Kenya is just the beginning and actually one of the more prosperous countries in the region. Beyond Kenya, I also visited war-torn nations such as Rwanda, Burundi, Congo, Uganda, and Mozambique. I remember seeing on TV years ago how one woman gave birth in a tree in Mozambique during a flood. Between Rwanda and Burundi during the genocide that plagued the small countries in 1994, 1.2 million people were slaughtered between tribal factions. I visited the site of the massacre and was heart broken to see the animosity that still exists.

My other African stops over 5 different trips also took me to Malawi, where a dictatorial President in power for 25 years forbid women to wear pants. Then in Tanzania just above Kenya I saw new development as they sought to catch up with developing Kenya.  As for Congo it has been ravished for years due to its rich mineral resources, blood diamonds, and mercenaries fighting for personal gain.

O Ambassadors is a bold move I commend, which shall change the world and the youth launching out into the deep to do so. Not only are youth going abroad and awaking to the blessings of America we so often take for granted, but they are being changed in the process as they enrich the lives of others.

The American church has lost the concept and importance of overseas missions as we build fancier buildings for ourselves to dwell in, but the true heart of God is about “seeking and saving the lost” (Luke 19:10) in the “uttermost parts of the earth” (Acts 1:8). Nothing is more important for children then to grow up with access to proper education and clean water.

Paul F Davis – president and founder of Dream-Maker Ministries (a nonprofit charitable organization) that has touched 50 countries thus far but is desiring to partner with concerned people and organizations to make a larger impact globally.

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OCD – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Dr Oz and Jonathon Grayson

I watched Oprah last night with my wife and enjoyed seeing the interventions done by Dr. Oz and Jonathon Grayson for people struggling with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). I think we all know someone who struggles with something like this or manifests these irrational behavioral tendencies.

The common thread I heard throughout every story and conversation with those struggling with OCD was fear. They were all battling fear of some sort and deep paranoia. They developed various phobias based around their erroneous beliefs, which Jonathon and Dr. Oz challenged by making them confront their fears.

Exposure and response as it is commonly referred to in psychology was the methodology used to treat these precious souls. Some of the things they made them do were a bit odd and gross to watch, like putting their hands on the floor and toilet seats (after which they were told to lick their hands).

Oz and Grayson took a 2 mile walk through the streets of Philadelphia to wear down the participants’ defenses and get them to open up. After the long walk they stopped in a back alley with some rubbish bins, one particularly which smelled like puke, old sour food, and feces. After some coaching and prodding, all participants put their hands in the slimy rubbish and licked them afterward, some putting their dirty hands through their hair.

All of this was to get the people to realize they weren’t going to die if they did what they most feared. I must say however seeing Dr. Oz putting his hands on a toilet seat and licking them afterward was terribly disgusting. My wife who watches Oprah every day was eating her dinner during the program. I couldn’t resist saying, “Oh baby, maybe you should get free from your OCD (control freak) by licking the toilet seat and drinking some toilet water.” (I know I’m bad. She finished her meal unabated.)

I was very impressed with the intervention, but probably would not have done the gross methods myself to achieve the same results. Dealing with the roots and origins of the phobia is crucial.

One African American mother confessed when a loved one died years ago she felt as if it was her fault. This erroneous belief opened the door to fear as she falsely interpreted the event. Thereafter she (and another white mother on the show with similar circumstances) began to shelter their children and freak out about every little thing as a perverse protective mechanism. What the women failed to realize was in actuality they weren’t protecting their kids as much as they were harming them by imparting a spirit of fear and thereby removing them from life itself.

At the beginning all participants were initially reminded of the pain, loss of loved ones, alienation of friends, career loss, and financial hardships caused by their phobias. This helped each commit to the coaching and unique methods used to provide them their breakthrough.

After the intervention the people all looked way better, more free, present, and regained the glow in their countenance. One gentleman who always kept one hand in his pocket to stay germ free, was outdoors with both hands out, talking about playing in the dirt and having fun. He regained himself and thereby his life.

Jonathon Grayson occasionally throughout the segment called and referred to the fear everyone was struggling with as a “monster” saying: “When you run from this monster it follows you.” He later also called it a “devil” and encouraged one woman as she sought to pray to God for power to overcome it.

I was blessed to hear the one clean freak mom (white with short curly hair – sorry I don’t remember her name) testify to her breakthrough of taking her children out for ice-cream after the intervention. Her daughter wore a white shirt and got ice-cream all over it, but mom didn’t obsess or freak out. Upon leaving the restaurant she left without worrying about tidying up, pushing in the chairs, or agonizing over anything. A personal breakthrough for her!

Dr. Oz at the conclusion of the show summed up some key principles to freedom. “Surrender, get free from those attachments.”

As we are fully present and awake to our own past dysfunction, we can boldly deal with it and get the breakthroughs we deserve to live freely and be whole.

Truly what we resist does persist. Face your fears and live free!

Paul F Davis – Interventionist and Transformation Coach, Worldwide Minister, and Author

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Paul Davis is a worldwide minister who moves in the miraculous to touch and transform humanity.

Paul has a unique ability to hear the voice of God, naturally bring forth the supernatural in a playful & heartfelt fashion, unlock and simply explain divine mysteries, impart life changing revelation & usher in powerful manifestation bringing heaven to earth.

Paul has touched over 50 countries building dreams, transcending limitations & seeking to reconcile nations.

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