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Classy Woman – Considerations Before Marriage

As somebody who has traveled to over 50 countries throughout the world and dated countless women, it is worth noting that all women are not classy.

Over the years experience has taught me that looks are not everything, although most women will spend a good portion of their life attending to and complaining about their appearance. The classy woman however transcends her outward appearance and cultivates the woman within.

The best way to test a woman’s character is to watch how she handles money and people. The frivolous woman will spend carelessly and not consider where the money is coming from, neither how hard it was to earn. The lofty and egotistically self-absorbed woman will treat people of low estate poorly, considering them merely servants to attend to her every beck and call. Such behavior smacks of pride and arrogance, which a woman who merely lives for herself manifests often.

In regard to finances of all the women I have dated, one in particular proved exceptional in her ability to surprise me in her financial dealings. She was visiting friends in New York, during which we spent a few days skiing at Lake Placid. I made and cared for all of the arrangements, but to my surprise before she said her goodbyes she gave me an envelope full of hundred dollar bills to cover her share of the trip.

Such is a genuine woman of class and nobility. Sadly such a mentality is long gone and hard to find in North American and Western women who feel for some strange reason because of their looks and charm they are entitled to take advantage of men.  

The few women who act otherwise will always stand head and shoulders above the rest regardless of their looks. My wife has endured many hardships our first two years of marriage, as I by no means am a money man. Nevertheless we have lived well and traveled to many wonderful parts of the world – Australia, Fiji, Holland, France, Monaco, Puerto Rico, Aruba, St. Thomas, Curacao, and St. Martin.

Yet in our day to day lives both of us have struggled as entrepreneurial business owners. That being said financial struggles necessitate that we share a car. I’m always thankful and appreciative whenever my wife takes the initiative to put gas in it. Such is unthinkable for many women who merely use hubby’s credit card. Thank God I’m not saddled to such a woman.

My beloved wife is thrifty and sells items around the house we don’t use on Craigslist to help us out financially. She clips and saves coupons to save money when we grocery shop. Plus she’s paying her own way back to Canada to be in her friend’s wedding. Our first year of marriage she willingly shared a mobile phone with me to save money.

Guys you want to see your woman under pressure before you marry her. While dating I often took women overseas, out of their comfort zone, to see how they would react. Women and men put on a false face when they are dating to show their very best. Only over time as people let down their guard, does their true self appear and show itself.

Listen to the words of choice, the way people express themself, and their feelings. Are they positive or negative? Encouraging or destroying? Uplifting or draining? Do they bad mouth and belittle people? All of these are red flags to warn you of who you are dealing with.

Little things are everything. The devil is hidden in the details. If you date a woman who is all about herself and never offers to pay her way, watch out. Sometimes when my wife wants to go out, she pays for us.

Remember before marriage men want a cute face and nice figure. After marriage, men want a responsible woman who will help pay the bills.

Life is not all about her hair, dress, and shoes. She may think otherwise and if you allow it, you my friend are not wise and in store for a long arduous ride.  

Do yourself a favor men. If she’s high maintenance while you are dating her, move on while you can before you take her hand in marriage and have to endure a life of misery.

Romance without finance is foolishness and to think you can change someone is fatally presumptuous.

Paul F Davis – Love Coach and author of Are You Ready For True Love? a book assessing relational compatibility and responsibility

Paul F. Davis is a world-changing leadership & diversity speaker who has touched over 50 countries & 6 continents building bridges cross-culturally and empowering people throughout the earth to live their dreams!

 

Paul is the author of 14 books. Paul has appeared on numerous internationally broadcast radio shows from Oprah & Friends to Fox News Radio to talk about conflict resolution, peacemaking, foreign policy, and diplomacy. Playboy Radio host Tiffany Granath calls Paul an “awesome” relational coach and recommends his books on love, dating, and sexuality.

 

Academically outstanding Davis was trained in transformative mediation & conflict resolution (Hofstra Law School); strategic negotiations (Harvard Business School & U. of Washington); advanced interrogation (Reid & Associates founders of the polygraph); and NLP & Life Coaching (NLP & Coaching Institute of California).

 

Paul humorously and elegantly transforms individuals and organizations.

 

Paul’s organization Dream-Maker Inc. builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.

 

Paul worked at Ground Zero in NYC during 9/11; helped rebuild a home at the tsunami epicenter; comforted victims of genocide in Rwanda; spoke to leaders in East Timor during the war; inspired students & monks in Myanmar; promoted peace & reconciliation in Pakistan; and has been so deep into the bush of rural Africa where villagers had never before seen a white man.

 

Paul empowers people to love passionately and live fearlessly.

 

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OCD – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Dr Oz and Jonathon Grayson

I watched Oprah last night with my wife and enjoyed seeing the interventions done by Dr. Oz and Jonathon Grayson for people struggling with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). I think we all know someone who struggles with something like this or manifests these irrational behavioral tendencies.

The common thread I heard throughout every story and conversation with those struggling with OCD was fear. They were all battling fear of some sort and deep paranoia. They developed various phobias based around their erroneous beliefs, which Jonathon and Dr. Oz challenged by making them confront their fears.

Exposure and response as it is commonly referred to in psychology was the methodology used to treat these precious souls. Some of the things they made them do were a bit odd and gross to watch, like putting their hands on the floor and toilet seats (after which they were told to lick their hands).

Oz and Grayson took a 2 mile walk through the streets of Philadelphia to wear down the participants’ defenses and get them to open up. After the long walk they stopped in a back alley with some rubbish bins, one particularly which smelled like puke, old sour food, and feces. After some coaching and prodding, all participants put their hands in the slimy rubbish and licked them afterward, some putting their dirty hands through their hair.

All of this was to get the people to realize they weren’t going to die if they did what they most feared. I must say however seeing Dr. Oz putting his hands on a toilet seat and licking them afterward was terribly disgusting. My wife who watches Oprah every day was eating her dinner during the program. I couldn’t resist saying, “Oh baby, maybe you should get free from your OCD (control freak) by licking the toilet seat and drinking some toilet water.” (I know I’m bad. She finished her meal unabated.)

I was very impressed with the intervention, but probably would not have done the gross methods myself to achieve the same results. Dealing with the roots and origins of the phobia is crucial.

One African American mother confessed when a loved one died years ago she felt as if it was her fault. This erroneous belief opened the door to fear as she falsely interpreted the event. Thereafter she (and another white mother on the show with similar circumstances) began to shelter their children and freak out about every little thing as a perverse protective mechanism. What the women failed to realize was in actuality they weren’t protecting their kids as much as they were harming them by imparting a spirit of fear and thereby removing them from life itself.

At the beginning all participants were initially reminded of the pain, loss of loved ones, alienation of friends, career loss, and financial hardships caused by their phobias. This helped each commit to the coaching and unique methods used to provide them their breakthrough.

After the intervention the people all looked way better, more free, present, and regained the glow in their countenance. One gentleman who always kept one hand in his pocket to stay germ free, was outdoors with both hands out, talking about playing in the dirt and having fun. He regained himself and thereby his life.

Jonathon Grayson occasionally throughout the segment called and referred to the fear everyone was struggling with as a “monster” saying: “When you run from this monster it follows you.” He later also called it a “devil” and encouraged one woman as she sought to pray to God for power to overcome it.

I was blessed to hear the one clean freak mom (white with short curly hair – sorry I don’t remember her name) testify to her breakthrough of taking her children out for ice-cream after the intervention. Her daughter wore a white shirt and got ice-cream all over it, but mom didn’t obsess or freak out. Upon leaving the restaurant she left without worrying about tidying up, pushing in the chairs, or agonizing over anything. A personal breakthrough for her!

Dr. Oz at the conclusion of the show summed up some key principles to freedom. “Surrender, get free from those attachments.”

As we are fully present and awake to our own past dysfunction, we can boldly deal with it and get the breakthroughs we deserve to live freely and be whole.

Truly what we resist does persist. Face your fears and live free!

Paul F Davis – Interventionist and Transformation Coach, Worldwide Minister, and Author

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Paul Davis is a worldwide minister who moves in the miraculous to touch and transform humanity.

Paul has a unique ability to hear the voice of God, naturally bring forth the supernatural in a playful & heartfelt fashion, unlock and simply explain divine mysteries, impart life changing revelation & usher in powerful manifestation bringing heaven to earth.

Paul has touched over 50 countries building dreams, transcending limitations & seeking to reconcile nations.

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